Friday, May 29, 2015

Happy Birthday Derek!

At 19, everything is possible and tomorrow looks friendly. 
– By Jim Bishop

Five kids, four birthdays and today is the last one of them for this year. My only son Derek is turning 19.  Important age for a young person.

Derek's coming to this world was far from what one would normally expect and troubles started months earlier when at only 3 months of pregnancy I rushed to my doctors office with cramps and bleeding. I was diagnosed with premature separation of the placenta and prescribed a lot of rest. That was easier said than done.   When you have three other pumpkins at home already, the rest is hard to come by. Just as expected, the pregnancy proved to be a difficult one to carry and despite everyone's best efforts, Derek came into this world at only 30 weeks gestation or about 7 months.

I have never seen a baby so little, helpless and hooked up to so many tubes.  It was heartbreaking but at the same time I was happy and grateful that his prognosis was excellent and it was only a matter of time before he would be allowed to come home.  The day following his birthday, he was already breathing on his own and allowed to leave neonatal intensive care unit.  He remained in the hospital for the whole month of June and I visited every morning and evening to try and do as much for him as I possibly could.  The weirdest thing I remember about that time is the intense fog that blanketed the city for the longest time.  It almost seems like the entire time Derek was in neonatal care, the city was covered in fog.

The day he finally reached the desired weight and was allowed to go home was a celebration.  I will never forget it as long as I live.  Having a weigh in with the nurse, watching that scale and feeling the happiness, the relief and all sorts of other emotions, that was unforgettable.

Today Derek has grown up into a handsome young man.  He has a heart of gold and remains very close to us all.  I am convinced that I have the best son in the world.  I'm so proud of the wonderful, kind human being that he has become.  Couldn't ask for more.

Happy Birthday Derek!  I love you!


  1. Happy Birthday Derek. You are a true miracle.

    1. Thank you so much Mary, my friend! :)

  2. Aww sweet baby!! Happy Birthday Derek!! Glad you are here with us. ❤️

  3. 19 is such a wonderful age to be! Happy birthday, Derek!

    1. Indeed it is. Thank you Debra! :)