Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Blessed New Year to all!

Year's end is neither an end nor a beginning but a going on, with all the wisdom that experience can instill in us. ~Hal Borland

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Hello my dear friends and happy New Year's Eve! This is the last post for 2014.  The last day of the year has arrived and soon we'll send it on its merry way.

For me it will be a quiet night. Long passed are the days of big parties and celebrations on New Years Eve. Tonight I will welcome the baby year with my close family only and possibly with a humble toast.

Was 2014 a good or a bad year? It depends on who you ask, of course. For myself and my family it was good I suppose. All of us are reasonably healthy and have a roof over our heads. We are not hungry either.  My oldest daughter graduated university and began life in the real world. She is doing great so far and I wish her much prosperity in her new life journey.  I had a great season in my garden and grew a lot of food despite very unsatisfying summer.  Since we are a family of cats I have to take a moment and mention our furry friends too.  They are all doing great.

For our family, gratitude is definitely in order.

Not everyone was as fortunate as us though.  On the world stage, this year has been very tough on a lot of people. The wars in Ukraine, Gaza and Syria have claimed a lot of innocent lives. ISIS saga brought about the same. We should also not forget all the air tragedies of this year: the disappearance of flight MH370 on March 8, the shooting down of flight MH17 on July 17 as well as the more recent crash of QZ8501 just few days ago. A lot of people have lost their lives unnecessarily and my heart and prayers go out to them and the families they left behind.

As far as New Year wishes go, I wish that 2015 brings something better. I wish that the leaders of our countries give up the greed for power and riches and bring the human race together instead of pinning us one against another.  As cliche as it sounds, I wish for the world peace.

I wish those affected by the tragedies a strength to get through it and a brighter tomorrow.  I wish all those living in poverty a more prosperous future.  I wish all those in poor health an opportunity to get well and a full recovery.  

To all of us together I wish a merry New Year.  Good luck with all the resolutions you've made.  May you and your family be blessed every day of the coming year.

See you all in 2015. :)

Tuesday, December 30, 2014

My Thoughts on New Year Resolutions

"I want to focus more on living within the moment. I feel like throughout most of my life, I have been guilty of constantly worrying about what comes next. If we spend every waking moment ten steps ahead, it can be easy to miss the beauty of what's right in front of us. I vow to take my time and just enjoy the now while I still can and not wait to reminisce about experiences I may have missed by being preoccupied with hypothetical tomorrows"
Frank Iero's New Year Resolution

With the New Year around the corner, many of us are busy making our New Year resolutions.  We set goals with high hopes that this year we won't break them.

I used to make New Year resolutions as well.  I really meant to keep them but somehow it never worked out the way I wanted, no matter how committed I thought I was.  After several weeks, the excitement was gone and all that remained was a goal that turned into a chore.

New Year resolutions are a thing of a past for me.  New Year is just that.  A new year. It's not a new start, it's not a new beginning with any special meaning.  It's just another number added to the calendar of our lives, another 12 months we'll journey through. Do I want to spend these 12 months doing things I don't care for but think I should?  Heck no.

This year instead of making unrealistic goals that I know I won't keep, I promise myself to live more in the moment. Instead of trying to change my life, I accept my life the way that it is and rejoice in the NOW. Often times we put such emphasis on the future, that we miss the precious moments of the present.

No more.

Monday, December 29, 2014

Why does the time fly?

How long a minute is, depends on which side of the bathroom door you're on. 
~Zall's Second Law

It's hard to believe but in couple of days we will welcome brand new year 2015. At times like this I always wonder where did this year go? It was just like yesterday that we welcomed 2014 and in blink of an eye an entire year disappeared into the thin air.

Why does the time fly so fast? It seems that as we get older the time speeds up. Is the time going faster relative to our age or is it going faster relative to the events in the universe?

If you google the question of why does the time seem to be going faster, you'll find all sorts of different explanations. None of them are solid answers of course but rather theories as to why we perceive time the way we do.

1. Theory of Relativity. 
As we get older, years, months and days as well as our experiences make up smaller and smaller percentage of our overall lives. For example, when we are 5 years old one year is one fifth of our entire life but when we are 50 years old, one year is one fiftieth of our life. For that reason when we are 50 a year will pass much quicker than it did when we were 5.  Same thing with experiences.  At 50 years old, a single experience is only but a fraction of the overall experiences in our life.

2. Time goes faster when we are busy.
We are mothers, daughters, grandmothers, homemakers, professionals and often times all of it at once. The more we have on our plates the more busy we are and the less time we seem to have to take care of it all. The perception is that the time flies because we simply don't have enough hours in the day to do everything we need to or want to.

3. The older we get the more mentally busy we become.
When we get older we usually become less busy physically as we retire and see our children grow up but mentally we are busier than ever before.  There are many people in our lives we care for and many more thoughts we process on daily basis than we did when we were younger.

3. Our biological clock slows down as we age.
This theory suspects that we have some sort of internal pacemaker that slows as we age but external time doesn't.  As a result we observe the external time speeding up as years pass.

4. Universe is rapidly expanding.
This theory has to do not with our aging and preoccupied bodies but rather with universe itself. As universe is rapidly expanding the time itself is speeding up and therefore all of us whether old or young can observe the acceleration.

It is possible that all these theories are right in some way and all of them contribute to our perception of time. I asked my 18 year old son today how he view time and he told me that it seems like it was just yesterday that 2014 began.  It seems that no matter how old we are the time is running away from us at the neck-breaking pace.

What do you think?  Have you been able to catch time?

Sunday, December 28, 2014

The Night Owl

"Night time is really the best time to work. All the ideas are there to be yours because everyone else is asleep."
Catherine O'Hara

It's 3 am while I sit here and write my next blog post. Most of the house is asleep but I remain awake clicking away on my keyboard. I am what they call a night owl, awake till wee hours of the morning doing who knows what but I enjoy every minute of it.

My hubby likes to go to sleep around 9 pm but for me the fun just begins at that time. I don't know what it is about the night that I find so soothing and magical but it surely feels wonderful.

Now, during the holiday period I feel especially blessed. The school is out for holiday break and that means I don't have to wake up early in the morning to get my daughter off to the school bus. I can stay up later and then sleep in since she is sleeping in too.  We have one week of this bliss left.

I find that during the night is when the best thoughts come. Sometimes out of nowhere I'm flooded with multitude of perfectly formed sentences begging to be assembled into thoughtful essays on life. I truly don't know where they are coming from, though it feels like someone is dictating them to me. Is it my subconscious?

The stillness of the night captivates me. The silence is broken only by the gentle purrs of the cat nestled in the corner of my bed. Eventually my eyelids grow heavy and I drift away departing for the dreamland from which I shall soon return.

Night, night

Saturday, December 27, 2014

Can we live without ambition?

"Is it not possible to live in this world without ambition, just being what you are? If you begin to understand what you are without trying to change it, then what you are undergoes a transformation. I think one can live in this world anonymously, completely unknown, without being famous, ambitious, cruel. One can live very happily when no importance is given to the self; and this also is part of right education.

The whole world is worshipping success. You hear stories of how the poor boy studied at night and eventually became a judge, or how he began by selling newspapers and ended up a multi-millionaire. You are fed on the glorification of success. With achievement of great success there is also great sorrow; but most of us are caught up in the desire to achieve, and success is much more important to us than the understanding and dissolution of sorrow."

- Jiddu Krishnamurti, The book of life

When I first heard Krishnamurti's take on ambition I was shocked. I have never seen ambition portrayed in a negative light before.  All my life I was taught that ambition is a desirable trait that will drive me to success first in school and then later in life.  Upon little thinking I understood.  On the surface there is absolutely nothing wrong with ambition, except that often times we become so driven that we forget the true meaning of life.

Sometimes in our race to success we forget how to be a simple human. We forget how to BE without the need to BE SOMEBODY. We go to school, study and push our way to the top, to be the best in the class. Then we graduate and find employment and once again we push and plough our way to the top. We don't want to be average. We want to be the best so we can have the most money, the best looking car, and the biggest house.  We want to be the highest boss, best attorney, the army general or the most powerful politician. Our ambition doesn't let us rest until we show everyone what we are made of.

We might think this is part of the survival of the fittest, that we strive to be the best to earn the living, but is it really?  Do we stop when we have enough to survive or do we continue on the never ending path of wanting more and more and more?  More recognition, more power and more riches?

Do we ever stop and ask what's that chugging along with our ambition?  That thing in the shadow that doesn't want to show its face?  What is its name?

That is misery.

Misery is ambition's ugly sister.  On our road to success we rarely see the misery that comes along with our ambitious pursuits.  The people we trample over to get to where we want to be or the people that die in needless wars that we create through our greed for power.  We think we accomplish great goals and shoot for the stars but what exactly is left in the dust we leave behind?

Can we live in this world without ambition?  Can we live in the present moment and accept that what we have is enough?  Do we really need more power, more riches, more success?  Do we really need more "progress"?   And what is that progress we are going after exactly?  Niftier computers, improved gadgets, faster cars?  Do we really need all that?  At what cost? Can we stop all the wars and the misery that come with them? Can we just live and let live?

Very few people actually stop and think of these things.  The gap between the rich and the poor has never been greater than it is today and for every person enjoying great success there are far too many people suffering in silence.  Our civilization is like a runaway train speeding downhill with no brakes. We have to figure out how to slow down and bring this train under control again before we crash and burn.

Live in the Moment

Friday, December 26, 2014

My cat got a box for Christmas

When shopping for Christmas presents for our loved ones we can't forget about our four legged friends. The stores have plenty of toys for variety of pets, and cats are no exception. I looked at many different options for toys that I would hope Hercules would like but wasn't sure about any of them. Hercules is picky and most of the toys don't interest him. While other cats play with almost anything on the floor, Hercules just lies there looking at them with pity.

He has one weakness though... Hercules loves boxes.

Many cats love boxes but Hercules is obsessed with them. He notices every box that arrives in the house and tries to get his paws on it.  He sniffs it, brushes against it and tries to fit into it no matter what its size.  Here are some pics.

There really was no use buying a toy that he probably won't play with and which will turn into another useless clutter in the house. Cardboard box on the other hand is sure to provide loads of fun for Hercules, costs nothing and can be easily recycled when no longer needed.

I found the perfect box in the recycle dumpster of our local bookstore.  I nearly fell in when trying to retrieve it which I'm sure it would have been quite a sight. Angelina and I decorated it the day before Christmas Eve with his name and some loving phrases.  Please note that "fatty" is not meant to be offensive, but rather loving acknowledgement of the fact that sometimes he eats so much food that he grows a second chin.  Hercules loves his food.

The box has been a hit so far. I find Hercules taking a nap in it quite often. That's just shows to prove that sometimes the best things in life come without a price tag.

I woke him up from a nap.  He doesn't look impressed, does he?

Thursday, December 25, 2014

The morning of the Christmas Day

“Maybe Christmas. he thought... doesn't come from a store, maybe Christmas,  perhaps... means a little bit more....” 
― Dr. Seuss, How the Grinch Stole Christmas!

I love the morning of the Christmas Day. The night before our family enjoys the annual Christmas dinner and exchange of gifts and afterwards we go to bed tired but happy. The house is a lovely mess on Christmas Day morning but it doesn't matter, it will sort itself out eventually. My youngest daughter wakes up to a little something dropped of by Santa in the middle of the night and we get to share in the joy with her. He usually eats all the cookies we put out and we marvel at his ability to sneak in and out of the house unnoticed.

Tasty treats for Santa

Stockings are out and hanging
Santa must have loved his snack and he even left a thank you note

Christmas Day is a pyjama day for most of us here. The food is already prepared ahead of time, all the pressure is off and we can just enjoy each other's company with no commitments hanging over our heads.  There is nothing pressing to be done except for eating, watching movies, spending time together and being merry.

Christmas Day is like a whole world being put on hold for a little while. I love to live in this moment and pretend that nothing else exists. For this one short day nothing else does.

Merry Christmas Everyone!

Wednesday, December 24, 2014

Merry Christmas

I can't believe it finally arrived. Today is December 24, the Christmas Eve. My whole family is coming over to dinner at my house. There is about 10 of us all together. It supposed to be 12 but my parents won't be coming due to health reasons.

Today I don't have a lot of time to spend writing so I just want to wish you all a wonderful Christmas Eve. If you too celebrate with the family tonight, I hope you have a splendid time.

Below are some shots from our tree this year.  The homemade ornaments are the most precious.  I no longer buy any ornaments, instead I try to add more homemade ones every year.

I will see you all beautiful people tomorrow. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!

Tuesday, December 23, 2014

Lets get steampunking

I've wanted to do this for so long. Gather up some used gear and create steampunk art. I don't know how it's going to turn out but I'm pretty excited about it.

What is steampunk? Some of you will know but others maybe won't. Steampunk is defined as:

A genre of science fiction that typically features steam-powered machinery rather than advanced technology.

In short, steampunk is a Victorian science fiction. The trend is not new but it hasn't hit the mainstream yet. For now it roams the realms shared with gothic subculture, its spooky cousin.  There is steampunk jewelry, steampunk art and steampunk fashion to name a few.

Steampunk Art of Mechanical Animal by Russian artist Vladimir Gvozdev

Steampunk Cogs Necklace by JewelryWeds on Etsy

A rabbit sculpture made by Susan Beatrice

Steampunk is a dream for any tinker with artistic tendencies like myself. Taking old mechanical items apart and reinventing their purpose is not just just fun, it's exhilarating. It takes me back to my teenaged years when I used to take broken things apart to see how they were designed inside and to see if maybe I could fix them. These days I like to poke around in my computer and change the parts when needed if I can.  There is definitely a tinker's blood running through my veins. Steampunk wise, till now I mostly enjoyed it through art and computer games. I think it's time to move on and get my hands a little dirty.

Yesterday I scored three watches at the local thrift shop. They were cheap enough to justify the purchase and I needed some practice. Two of them were water resistant. I can already hear some of you laugh at me. Yes. So far I was able to open only one of the the two.  One word of advice: water resistant watches do not open easily. If they did they wouldn't be water resistant, would they?  The gears are not great in these newer watches but the watch faces are beautiful and I already have a project in mind for them.

Some of my starting steampunk items

I also ordered a 40g lot of watch gears from eBay and got a package of fake gears from Michael's art store.  All of that should be enough to get me started on some projects.  I will continue hunting down old items of my own and I'm thinking garage sales during spring and summer should provide me with some interesting loot.

I'm really excited for this.  This is the happy marriage of my love for art with my tinkering tendencies. Time will tell what I can come up with.  Over the holidays I won't have a lot of time to spend on art but my hands are itching to get started and as soon as the rush is over I will give it the time it requires.

I can't wait.

Monday, December 22, 2014

Are you free?

One of my favourite philosophers of the 20th century is Jiddu Krishnamurti. I've read and listened to many of his lectures and every time I'm amazed by what he has to say. Today I want to share the following quote and discuss it a bit.
"A conditioned mind is not free because it can never go beyond its own borders, beyond the barriers it has built around itself; that is obvious. And it is very difficult for such a mind to free itself from its conditioning and go beyond, because this conditioning is imposed upon it, not only by society, but by itself. You like your conditioning because you dare not go beyond. You are frightened of what your father and mother would say, of what society and the priest would say; therefore you help to create the barriers which hold you. This is the prison in which most of us are caught, and that is why your parents are always telling you – as you in turn will tell your children – to do this and not do that. - Jiddu Krishnamurti

I couldn't agree more.  We like to think that we are free but in fact we live within walls so guarded that we are afraid of our own thoughts. From when we are little we are conditioned how to think, what to think and how to act. Nearly everything we do has been ingrained in us long time ago. Whether it is religion or societal norms, we are afraid to go beyond their boundaries, and instead wonder within narrow walls of predicable existence.

How many times did you want to say something or do something but you stopped yourself because you were afraid what other people would say? What would you parents say?  What would your neighbours say? What would your friends say? Why would you even care? You care because it was instilled in you to behave a certain way, follow certain norms and your mind is working hard to keep you there. You even dress like everyone around you following the latest fashions, afraid of lagging behind and falling out of the line. Why does it even matter?  As long as you're not hurting anyone, none of it should matter.  Period.

During our adolescence we try to fight the norms forced upon us and and we go through what they call the "rebel years". Sometimes we are successful and go on to become an original but often times we give up and fall back into the line and into the spot that has been reserved for us ahead of time. This is not living.  This is merely existing.  I've seen this happen to some great young people that I've known and I find it very sad.

You can't break these shackles without some serious work. For the past several years I've been working on un-conditioning myself, unlearning all I've been taught that keeps me within these narrow confines of thought and behaviour. I've been successful so far but still sometimes I catch myself putting brakes on something I want to say or do because of what other people may say.  These tendencies are rooted so deep it's hard to get into every nook and cranny.  More and more however, I am succeeding and it feels great.

You too can do that.  You too can set on the journey to freedom.  Step out of the box and be yourself. Don't be afraid. You are the only copy of you that exists. You are an original.  Behave like one.

Sunday, December 21, 2014

Yuletide Blessings to all that celebrate!

I can't believe it's already December 21st.  Today is Winter Solstice, the shortest day of the year which happens when the sun's height in the sky is at the lowest and the Earth is tilted furthest away from the sun.  It will happen at exactly 6:03 EST.

Today is a day of observance for all the pagans around the world as the rebirth of the sun and the return of longer days.  Many wiccans, witches, druids and others will partake in Yule celebrations, some with their families and some in quiet reflections and intimate rituals.

For me it will be a quiet and intimate affair.  I come from a Christian family where all the celebrations are centered around Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.  While I honour these days with my family members, Winter Solstice has a special place in my heart and is of equal importance.

I want to wish all those that celebrate Blessed Yule and all the best in the coming new season.  May the young sun smile on you and bring you all that you need and desire.

Happy Winter Solstice and Blessed Yule to All!

Saturday, December 20, 2014

Here is to another 365

"A birthday is just a first day of another 365-day journey around the sun.  Enjoy the trip."
- Author Unknown

Today is my birthday and I'm turning 43 years young.   Some ladies prefer to not talk about their age but I really don't care.  I'm comfortable with aging, it's simply part of our life.

I'll be spending my special day with my close family, namely my children and my husband.  We'll go to the Brown Dog Cafe for lunch where they serve wonderful Ruben sandwiches and delicious Matcha Latte and in the evening we'll be seeing the third and last instalment of The Hobbit: The Battle of the Five Armies.  Hobbit is one of my all time favourite movies together with the Lord of The Rings and I've been so fortunate for the past three years in the row to have it come out exactly in time for my birthday.  The best birthday gift ever.

I'm leaving you with the final scene from last year's Hobbit: The Desolation of Smaug.  This is such an epic scene and my favourite so far.  There is one thing you have to know about me and that is that I adore dragons.  I seriously wish they were part of our world today.  Who knows, maybe we could tame them.

Friday, December 19, 2014

Gifts for everyone!

Today's post was supposed to be about something different but I changed my mind after taking my youngest daughter to the school bus and some of the conversation I overheard.  Today I'm going to rant a little about our consumer oriented society and the holiday spirit.

I grew up in Eastern Europe in the Roman Catholic family and Christmas was our main holiday every year.  It was about families getting together, it was about good food and for us kids it was about the Christmas tree and the presents.  When you're a kid, you look forward to these presents, no doubt.  That's just it though. Presents were mostly for kids.  I remember adults exchanging little gifts too but they were just little tokens of appreciation and reserved only for family and closest friends.  At least that's how it was in my family and those around me I knew.

Fast forward to present day in Canada where Christmas is commercialised beyond belief and EVERYONE apparently supposed to get a gift.  This is pure insanity.  A parent at the bus stop this morning was instructing  his little child to make sure to give gifts to all the various teachers that child has.  When the school bus arrived, the front of the bus was covered with gift bags for the bus driver.  They were not just little bags either.  They were full size gift bags suggesting something substantial inside.  The little boy at the bus stop had a gift for the bus driver too.

Are we not going a little nuts here?  In addition to my 15 family members, am I supposed to shop for gifts for four teachers and two bus drivers too?  Why stop there.  How about the principal and the cleaning staff as well?  How about if you have more than one child? Do you work?  How about all your co-workers and the boss too?  Can we stop this madness and actually enjoy the holidays the way they were meant to be enjoyed?  Is a homemade card and a heartfelt thank you not good enough anymore?

My daughter went to school today with Christmas cards for her home-room teacher and two bus drivers.  She made these cards herself and they have more heart and good cheer in them than any store bought card would ever have.  She worked hard on these cards.  That is her gift to the teacher and the bus drivers.  I didn't buy any gifts for them because I don't know these people good enough to even guess what they might like.  To me gift giving during holidays is intimate and special and from the heart and it should be reserved for those closest to us.  I'm not going to buy gifts for the sake of buying gifts and because everyone else is doing so.

Don't get me wrong. I love to give but this is not giving.  This is holiday induced shopping mania which is oiling up the corporate machine and putting hard earned money into the pockets of people that don't need any more money.  This is thoughtless buying of cheap merchandise to satisfy this consumer oriented society and filling up our dump sites.  What meaningful you can possibly buy for people you don't know much about?

Seriously.  Just stop.

Thursday, December 18, 2014

Are you intuitive?

"Intuition comes very close to claivoyance; it appears to be the extrasensory perception of reality"
- Alexis Carrel

We've all been there at one point in our lives or another.  The situation presents itself to you and it appears that you know what to do or say but there is something deep inside you that disagrees.  That little voice of your gut telling you, nagging you, insisting that what you think you know is wrong.  You try to shut up this annoying voice because it doesn't make sense.  It tells you to go against everything you know to be right.  After all, the situation is clear, the facts are laid out and your decision should be simple.

Not so quick my friend.

That little voice is a voice of your intuition, your instinct, your ability to understand something immediately without the need for conscious reasoning.  I know it well.  It's been with me for so long we've become friends.  In the past I've been called crazy, unreasonable and rude when I heeded its warning, but every time it was right.

I know I'm a deeply intuitive person.  Over the years I've learned to trust my gut no matter what the conscious logic tells me.  Logic is great, don't get me wrong but in certain situations it's not enough.  You have to let it work with your gut ever so often. There will be times when you'll deal with people that know all the right things to say.  They are the manipulators and the liars of this world and they know exactly how to make you do their bidding. There is only one thing they cannot fool and that is your intuition.  That's why you too need to make friends with your gut and learn its warning calls.   Sometimes you may feel like you're crazy and you may even feel like a bad person but trust me the feeling will pass.

There is a constant battle between our conscious mind and the subconscious.  Remember that it's the conscious mind that can be manipulated and it's our subconscious that holds all the right answers.  Over the years I've learned to trust my intuition and accept that it is a big part of who I am.  It's not always easy, sometimes it feels like a never ending tug of war, but my intuition has been right enough times that I think it has earned its place.

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Of Early Birthday Presents and The New iPhone 6

I caved in and I don't know how I feel about it yet but I think I like it.

Few days ago while Christmas shopping at Best Buy I saw the iPhone 6 on sale for only $127 with the two year contract.  I brought this to my hubby's attention who was asking earlier what I wanted for my birthday coming up in 3 days.  $127 is a little more than I would like to spend for my birthday but I was hoping to reduce it a little bit by turning in my existing iPhone.  

My hubby was happy with the idea and this morning we went to get a closer look at this new gadget. What can I say.  It was nice.  Really nice.

I was able to turn in my old phone and received additional $50 off, making the iPhone cost only $77.  
That is a deal I can live with and my mind should once again be at peace.  But is it?

I don't usually run and get the newest and best stuff that comes out.  I'm not part of that crowd. Everything I buy I keep it for a long time and run it into the ground before I decide it's time for a change.  I have one exception. When it comes to my computer or the phone, I like to keep these reasonably updated.

I've had my iPhone 4 for four years now and it's still working just fine.  It's very slow and I can no longer upgrade to the latest iOS but it's still working.  I told myself a long time ago that I will upgrade when iPhone 6 comes out.  Evidently, I lied.  When iPhone 6 appeared on the market couple of months ago, I tried to talk myself out of it again.  The price tag was expensive and the phone had bending issues.  I figured I could wait few more months to see what comes out next.

It's time to admit something.  I don't want to wait any longer.   With technology moving forward as quickly as it does these days, the future model will always sound more exciting than the current one. Now with the prices falling I think enough is enough, I might as well go for it.  

And as to the bending issue?  A hardshell case should blast that into non-existence.

So why is it that I'm sitting here, rambling on and trying to rationalize this new purchase?  Why is it that I can't just enjoy my new toy and go on with my life?  I don't know.  Maybe it's because I've lost touch with the material things in my life.  They don't matter that much any more.  Getting a new phone seems a little .... hypocritical.

Sometimes is hard to be me inside my own head.

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

My Cat Likes His Space

"I just need some space to be who I am".  
- A Better Me lyrics

I don't blame him.  I like my space too.

They say that pets usually look like their owners but I think that there is more to it than it meets the eye.

Do our pets mold to our various personality traits or do we somehow find each other in this peculiar world?  This is a question I would like to find an answer to.

Hercules loves to spend time with me.  He follows me everywhere I go around the house.  He is there when I watch the movie, read a book or eat the dinner.  He is sleeping in the chair beside me as I type these words.  If I walk into the room and close the doors, he will sit there until I get up and let him in.

He doesn't however like to be crowded.  Just like me.

I've tried this a million times.  If I sit right beside him, to the point that we touch, he re-adjusts himself to regain the space I just stole from him.  If I don't honour his need for space and insist on invading, he simply gets up and leaves.  Just to mess with him I like to smother him with hugs and kisses sometimes.  Oh, does he ever struggle to get away!

To some he may seem like an ungrateful cat but to me it's understandable.  I don't like to be crowded either.

When the time is right, he comes along and hops onto my lap for a little snuggle time or nestles himself into the nook on the bed right beside me as I fall asleep at night.

Sometimes it's on his terms.  And it's all right.

Hercules on the chair beside me as I type this post.

Monday, December 15, 2014

10 Gothy Picks For Under The Tree

"We make up horrors to help us cope with the real ones."
- Stephen King

I won't be receiving traditional Christmas gifts this year.  Instead, I am asking my family for a small donation of money which I want to put together and donate to the homeless shelter.  Either that or I'll buy food with this money and donate it to the food bank.  I haven't decided yet.

Just because I'm not expecting anything, doesn't mean that I can't window shop and fantasize.  Here I've put together a list of 10 picks which I think would be awesome gifts for a gothy/witchy person like myself.  Maybe you will find them interesting.

$54.13 CAD 

I love the shape of this parasol and the bat on the side is a nice addition.

$45.54 USD

Purple and black is my favourite colour combination.  Combine that with the lovely shape and the bats on the side and this is one gorgeous piece.

$28.00 USD

I love skulls and this one is beyond cool.  I think it would be a great addition to any goth's desk

$4.99 USD

Ravens are my favourite birds.  Having them on my nails would be amazing.  My birthday is coming up soon.  Maybe this should be my own little gift to myself.

$285.00 USD

This one is simply too expensive but I had to list it.  I adore creepy dolls and this one is one unique looking one.  Beautiful art but not for my pocket.

$11.64 CAD

I don't have a wall calendar for my office yet and this will be my selection for the upcoming year.  I will probably order it as part of a birthday gift to myself

$11.25 CAD

One cannot get the Witches' Calendar without getting this datebook too.  I've been planning to get something similar so why not get this one.

$25.50 USD

In the winter I love to put arm warmers under my sweater sleeves.  These particular ones have a great design with buttons and lace.  They look great!

$21.38 CAD

This bag is fun, gothy and practical. I love the design.

$21.99 CAD

I was stunned when I found this.  A dragon stapler?  Really?  How totally awesome is this! I hope the stapler I currently have breaks down some time soon.